When my ex-wife was pregnant with our daughter, she was very concerned about the health and welfare of our unborn child. She read every book and did everything by the book during her pregnancy to ensure our child would be born with every advantage that biology could muster. She even asked for prenatal testing for Down Syndrome even though she was not a high risk pregnancy or even over 30 years old for that matter.
She revealed to me that she wouldn't have anything to do with our child if it was born with a mental defect because she has no patience for stupid people. This was shocking to me and I let her know that I did not share her opinion, disabled or not I would love our child unconditionally. Lucky for her we ended up having a perfectly healthy child with no developmental disabilities. I did catch her checking our daughter for exact number of fingers and toes which I guess is somewhat normal behaviour.
I'm pretty sure her paranoia can be attributed to her own diagnosed mental illnesses but it was eye-opening for me. I was surprised that someone would have a problem with it, especially if it was your own child. She may have even held me responsible should something have been 'wrong' with our daughter considering I have family members possessing developmental disabilities. You cannot bargain with biology, you get what you get no matter how properly you live.
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