Objectivity, that's what other people are for

It's so hard to be objective about a situation when you are personally involved. I have been offering objective points of view to my friends for years and it has provided them a service since they also find it difficult to be objective for themselves. No matter how much one tries to separate fact from fiction, fiction being the emotional attachment to a situation, they seem to get clouded in the romantic notion of what the outcome could be rather than what logically would happen. It's almost a cruel joke to have created humankind with both the tool to derive a solution based on analytics and another that is influenced by so many unrealistic factors from conditioning to pure flights of fancy.

I'm a hopeless romantic. Plain and simple. I want the next man to walk in the door to sweep me off my feet. I forget that I've been swept before, only to realize far too late that it was not the best thing to have done at that point in my life. In saying that, I don't regret it either. I just wish I had the same perspective as my friends did when they say after the fact that they didn't see it going in the direction I was hoping for. Man up and tell me beforehand, thank you. I know that when I'm in the situation I am not soliciting honesty but the rose coloured commentary on how happy he makes me, how much better he is for me than 'what's his name' or 'he who shall not be named'. Lie to me but tell me the truth.

Be objective, be, be, be objective. If I keep saying it I will believe it right? Probably not but isn't the whole point of being inside a situation to be completely enraptured by it? Why make it so clinical and pick it apart? That takes the humanity out of living, loving and losing. Like someone said to me recently, "my heart didn't close after first meeting you." I take that as good instinct, which I believe that I have too. I've been objective about a few men lately and realized it will not go anywhere. Huge step for this serial relationship junkie, but that's another topic altogether. Let's just keep a level head and tread lightly and not the other way around. At least until I know the objective before losing it.